Only Between Husband and Wife

In continuation of my blog series on the family, I want to address a sensitive issue this time.  Please know that I am not trying to push my beliefs and standards on anyone.  Rather, I am wanting to share it with, and if it is something you think will bless your life like it has mine, then you are free to adopt these beliefs and standards as well.

This week I am memorizing a couple paragraphs in "The Family: A Proclamation to the world" (I brought up in previous posts, here is the full document).

The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.
We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

Between husband and wife

 I have said it before, but I will say it again, I believe in having families.  This doesn't mean that I believe in popping out children until my days of child-bearing are done.  This is something a husband and wife pray about and the Lord helps them to know when and how many children is good for their family.  For some it might be eight, for others it might be one, but we do believe in having children.

There is a disturbing trend in society where children are being born out of wedlock, and among those who are married, having children is something to do only after you have done all the amazing things you want to do with your life.

In a talk Neil L. Anderson gave on children, he shared a blog by a mother (she is not of my faith) where she shares exactly what motherhood is:

Children rank way below college. Below world travel for sure. Below the ability to go out at night at your leisure.  Below toning your body at the gym. Below any job you have or hope to get. ... Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you  find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for."

Having children and making families grow in unity is what God sent us here to do.  If you search deep in your heart, I am sure you will feel that family is the most important unit in society.  The first commandment between a husband and wife is to have children, and that those God given powers to create life are to ONLY be used between a husband and wife.


The world has fallen into a twisted view of physical intimacy, it is not about satisfying the animal desires of humans.  It is beautiful when done in the way God intended it to be, between husband and wife. "It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love between husband and wife. God has commanded that sexual intimacy be reserved for marriage." (For the Strength of Youth, 2012, page 35)

Reserving intimacy after marriage is important because this is the best way to build love and trust between a husband and wife, and it creates the optimal situation for bringing children into this world.  I know there are those who would say that there are terrible examples where the family situation was not the best, but I feel deep inside that if a man and woman are trusting in God in their marriage together and bringing children into their family where the gospel of Jesus Christ is taught, those terrible examples my not even exist.

Marriage and children are a beautiful gift God has given us to live in and it is something that needs to be worked on and protected.  We can do this as we strive to be like our Savior Jesus Christ, and follow the commandments of God.